10 Ways to Protect Your ASD Child From Wandering & Abuse
As parents, it’s our duty and responsibility to keep our children safe. We babyproof our homes, we teach about stranger danger, we use car seats and booster seats to keep them safe in the car, helmets and knee pads for safety on their bikes – it’s an endless list.
If your child has autism you may need to take extra precautions, and ensure additional safety measures are in place at home and school to protect your child. Individuals with ASD don’t always have a clear sense of danger, and may not be able to cooperate when they need help.
Additionally, if a stressful situation triggers your child’s fight or flight instinct, they could run into danger becoming lost or disoriented.
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Major Safety Concerns
Unfortunately, we can’t be with our kids all the time. But we want to keep our kids safe whether we are there or not. Two of the biggest safety concerns for parents with autistic children are
How Common Is Wandering?
A study in the journal
- 49% of parents reported their child wandered away atleast once (compared to 11% of parents with neurotypical children).
- 53% of these children were missing long enough to cause their parents significant worry.
- 65% of incidents involved a close call with traffic.
- 24% of incidents involved a close call with drowning.
- 43% of parents reported that their child was a significant enough flight risk that it interferes with their ability to sleep at night.
How Common Is Abuse?
- 47% of parents reported that their children had been hit by peers
- 65% of parents reported that their children with ASD syndrome had been victimized by peers in some way within the past year
- 50% reported them to be scared by their peers
- 12% indicated their child had never been invited to a birthday party
- 6% were almost always picked last for teams
- 3% ate alone at lunch every day
- One in three children with an identified disability for which they receive special education services are victims of some type of maltreatment (i.e., either neglect, physical abuse, or sexual abuse)
I’ve tried to write this post four other times, and every time I start looking at these statistics I stop because they’re so scary. I’m not putting them out there because I want to scare other parents. My goal is to raise awareness of these risks so parents can protect their children.
After reading the tragic story about Maddox Ritch in the news this week, I knew it was time to get this post out there for other parents.
What Safety Precautions Should Parents Take?
There are two main types of safety precautions you should take to protect your child from wandering and abuse – prevention and emergency readiness.
The level of additional measures you decide to take should be based on the level of risk – I’m going to cover several possible safety measures for prevention and readiness. It’s up to you to assess the level of risk and choose what measures will work best for you and your family.
Prevention strategies are those that reduce or eliminate the likelihood of the event from occurring.
Window locks and door alarms
You don’t need to invest a ton of money into a home security system to set up alarms or locks. In fact, it’s less than $20 to get two of the top-rated door alarms on Amazon.
No wiring or screws are needed. These alarms are battery operated and will sound at 130
They can also be installed on your child’s bedroom door. If your child leaves their room at night while you’re sleeping they could encounter safety hazards within your home, even if they don’t get outside.
Additionally, adjustable window locks can be used to secure the windows in your home. You can adjust these so the windows still open enough to get fresh air in your home, but won’t open far enough that a child could escape or fall from the window.
Set up visuals in your home where ever necessary.
This might include a visual reminder to turn an appliance off, stop signs by the main doors or “do not enter” signs on hazardous rooms, such as the room where the furnace or hot water heater is located
Harnesses or Wrist Links
To prevent your child from bolting in public, especially in crowded or unfamiliar places, consider using a harness or wrist link.
The Anti Lost Wrist Link goes around your wrist and your child’s. The connecting cord stretches to give your child about 8 feet of space so it’s less restrictive than holding hands but still keeps your child close by.
Another popular choice is a backpack harness and leash combo.
91% of accidental deaths in autistic children under the age of 14 are a result of accidental drownings. Most of the time this occurs when a child has wandered and doesn’t understand the safety risks of water.
Being able to swim could be the difference between life and death. Although it usually takes kids with ASD longer to learn how to swim, it’s an important skill to have.
Many community pools offer special programs for individuals with additions needs like autism. Often, these programs provide your child with 1:1 instruction, rather than a group. These programs are usually offered at low or no cost.
Take some time to check with local pools and community centers near you to find the best program for your child. Google “Special Needs Swimming Lessons in (Your city).
Angelsense GPS is a location tracking and voice monitoring device specifically designed for children with special needs. It’s basically the holy grail of safety devices for when you aren’t able to be directly with your child.
Some of the features include:
- Real-time location tracking – GPS location updates every 10 seconds so you can accurately locate your child instantly.
- Unknown location text alerts
- Listen-in feature – you can listen in to get an idea of what’s happening around your child at anytime. This feature can be used to make sure you child isn’t being bullied or treated badly by caregivers.
- Two way walking – you can speak to your child automatically without them needing to answer a phone call.
Angelsense devices come with a charger, case, a special key (so only parents/key holders can remove the device) a sleeve and three fasteners.
The number of people who can download the app to monitor your child is unlimited and their month to month plan has no contract so you can cancel anytime.
Emergency Readiness Strategies
Emergency readiness strategies are strategies that will help you respond as fast as possible if your child ever does go missing or is hurt.
The Big Red Safety Box
The Big Red Safety box is a free resource provided by the National Autism Association which contains many wonderful safety items, including:
- Be Red-y safety book
- 2 GE Wireless Door/Window Alarms with batteries
- 1 Road ID Personalized, Engraved Shoe ID Tag
- 5 Adhesive Stop Sign Visual Prompts for doors and windows
- 2 Safety Alert Window Clings for car or home windows
- 1 Red Safety Alert Wristband
- 1 Child ID Kit from the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
Alternatively, you can download the pdf. version of the Be Red-y Safety Book from the NAA website. The book contains:
- Caregiver Checklist
- Swimming Lessons Tool
- Root-cause Scenario & Strategies Tool
- Stop Sign Prompts
- Social Story: “Staying in my house”
- Sample IEP Letter (Never allow restraint/seclusion practices into any IEP as this increases associated risks.)
- Sample Physician’s Letter
- General Awareness Letter: share with schools, homeowner’s association, law enforcement agencies, physicians, etc.
- Five Affordable Safety Tools
- Caregiver Resources One-sheeter
- Family Wandering Emergency Plan
- First-responder Alert Form (Please fill out and provide a copy to your local law enforcement agencies.)
- Calming Cards Sheet
- Student Profile Sheet
- Wandering-prevention One-Sheeter
Keep a Fully Stocked First Aid Kit
You should have a first aid kit in both your home and your car so you can use first aid as quickly as possible should your child (or anyone else) get injured.
It’s a good idea to keep a small note pad and pen inside your first aid kit so you can make note of anything that you use from the kit. Use that notebook to regularly restock your kit so you always have everything you need.
Have a Family Wandering Emergency Plan and First-Responder Alert Form
Templates for both of these are included in the NAA’s free handbook which is why I highly recommenced downloading.
The emergency plan outlines the steps to take in an emergency event. It also outlines critical details about your child to help identify them, common locations they may go, near by bodies of water, favorite items, etc.
This information will be used in any search for your child. Have this form filled out can significantly reduce the amount of time law enforcement need to take interviewing family – which means they have more time for finding and bringing home your child safely.
If your child is not able to communicate their name and address on their own, consider purchasing a custom engraved identification wristband.
You can include information like name, emergency phone numbers, medical conditions, etc. So if your child does wander and someone finds them, they can quickly identify your child and help.
No matter what strategies are put in place as a safeguard to protect any at-risk child from danger such as wandering or abuse, proper adult supervision is still required to keep your child safe.