Improve Behavior in 7 Days With This Easy Positive Affirmations Plan

See Improved Behavior in 7 Days With This Easy Positive Affirmations Plan

Positive affirmations and reinforcement can be highly effective in encouraging more positive behavior from your child. Think about how you feel when your boss gives you a pat on the back, or your husband praises your cooking. Our kids are the same way, it feels good to have the good pointed out.

But if you want to get the most out of using praise and positive reinforcement, you have to master your technique. I’m here to help with a planned, weekly positive affirmations plan.

You can check out here more information on why positive reinforcement works better than negative consequences.

How To Give Positive Reinforcement Effectively

It is a whole lot more than a random “good job buddy!” in when you happen  to notice some good behavior, or when your child does something exceptional. There’s a way to do it right.

1.   Stop what you are doing and give full undivided attention to your child.
2.  Describe what you see and how it makes you feel. “I see a clean room and laundry put away, that makes me feel so happy!”
3.  Make a physical connection, too. This may be a high five, or a hug, a pat on the shoulder, eye contact etc.

The positive behavior should always be acknowledged in two ways: verbally and physically. It helps to portray your sincerity and will make your child feel proud, and like they matter.

This is a great way to strengthen your parent-child bond as well.

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When To Give Positive Reinforcement & Affirmation

Don’t wait until your child has been doing something for a while before you take the time to notice it. This opens up the opportunity for them to start doing another inappropriate behavior.

1.  Acknowledge the behavior within the first few seconds of your child doing the right thing. Don’t give them an opportunity to act up before you have had the chance to notice.
2.  Immediately after an inappropriate behavior, when your child begins doing what is expected again.
3.  All the time. Lay it on thick. If they’re cranky that day, find chances to give them even more positive reinforcement. Ask them to do a special job for you, or take some time to give them some special attention.

What To Give Positive Affirmations About

You probably already praise your child when they do something really good. You know, those things that rarely or sporadically happen but when they do you feel beyond proud.

Your child regularly receive praise for the good things they do – even the things they do every day. They should also get acknowledgement for their positive qualities and personality traits.

  1. Make a list of five things your child already does well every day and plan ahead to notice them.

    This could be brushing their teeth, eating all their food, playing nicely with siblings, etc. These five things should be things they are already good at.

    Example: “Thank you so much for putting your plate in the sink, it’s so great to have your help.”

  2. Take time each day to point out the good qualities in her personality and how you admire them.

    For example, when your child is coloring a picture, say: “You are so artistic. I really love looking at your drawings and your creative way of mixing colors”

  3. Give praise to your child before they even start doing something.

    If you see your child walking towards the bathroom, say “Oh perfect you’re going to brush your teeth! I love that I don’t even have to ask”.
    Maybe that wasn’t why they were heading to the bathroom – but they’re probably going to brush their teeth now and you didn’t have to “tell” them what to do. 

Make A Weekly Positive Reinforcement Plan

Download a copy of this positive reinforcement plan and fill it out each day/week. You can save to your device and print as needed.

Each week sit and look at your plan and do the following:

  1. On the first week, you started with five things your child already did every day. You spent the whole week reinforcing these behaviors.  Now each week remove one of these things from the listand replace it with something your child needs to work on more. Plan what the behavior is, and how you will use reinforcement when you see your child doing what’s expected.
  2. Continue to adjust your plan weekly, as needed
  3. Keep the list somewhere you will see it regularly (like the fridge or on your dresser) so it acts as a reminder for you to keep using positive reinforcement consistently.
  4. Each day review and check off the things you took the time to notice.

Important: This list is not for your child’s behavior – it is to hold you accountable for noticing their behavior and giving them positive reinforcement.

Over time you can add increasingly challenging behaviors to the list that you want to work on.

But, it’s extremely important to start week one with five things that your child is already really good at and does regularly. This is to give your child a confidence boost that will help lead to more future successes. 

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