8 Guaranteed Ways To Make Transitions Easier

8 Powerful Strategies to Help Kids Through Transitions

Transitions can be difficult for all children, but extremely so for a child with autism or ADHD.  Yet, everybody must go through transitions every single day. A transition could be as small as switching from one task to another, or as big as starting school or moving to a new house.

There are different strategies you can use to prepare your child for transitions, which will make transitions easier for them and you.

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How to Make Transitions Easier

Children struggling through transitions may have a hard time switching tasks. This can manifest in many ways including avoidance, distraction, resistance,  to a full-blown meltdown. These reactions usually stem from the child not being able to self-regulate.


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For some, transitions can cause extreme anxiety because of the need for sameness and because they feel like they have no control. If your child struggles, it’s important to have supports in place that will make transitions easier for them.

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1. Use a First-Then Statement

This is a useful tool for smaller transitions, like changing activities. The first-then statement looks like this:

“First, (non-preferred), then, (preferred activity)”

When you’re giving too many directions at once your child isn’t going to be able to process everything you say. Without clear instructions and enough processing time, your kiddo can become overwhelmed quickly.  First-then statements should always address the non-preferred activity first, then a preferred activity.

The first-then statement is like a contract with your child. Doing the “then” is contingent upon completing the “first”.

Here are some examples of first-then statements:

“First, put your toys in the box, then we will watch a movie”
“First, eat your supper, then you can play outside”
“First, it is bath time, then I will read your book”
“First, pick up your blocks, then you can paint”

The consistency of the language, over time, will help your child to understand exactly what is coming next. It also concisely tells the sequence of events that are about to happen.

2. Provide Frequent Change Warnings

A change warning gives your child a heads up that a transition is coming. Knowing what to expects helps make transitions easier and your child will be able to move from one activity to the next more smoothly. For example, if it was almost bedtime you would tell my kids: “In 10 minutes it will be time to turn off your tablet, and go to bed”

Use change warnings frequently so your child has lots of time to prepare for the transition.

At my house, I actually give the warning that bedtime is coming in one hour. I then remind the kids about bedtime with change warnings at 30 minutes, 15 minutes, 10 minutes, 5 minutes. Then at 2 minutes, I announce there are 2 minutes left, finish what you are doing – save your video games, pick up your toys, finish coloring, pause your TV show for tomorrow, etc.  Getting the kids into bed is always easier when they have had plenty of warnings.

No one wants to be suddenly told they have to drop what they’re doing and go do something else. Kids need the opportunity to finish what they are doing rather than being expected to abruptly stop a task. When they’re doing something they enjoy it’s easy to lose track of time and forget it’s almost time to move on.

3. Use A Visual Timer

A visual timer complements change warnings and when-then statements nicely. Having a timer makes transitions easier because your child will have a visual reference for when the activity will be over.

A lot of children don’t fully understand the concept of time so using a digital timer may be confusing for them. A timer with a dial provides a clear visual and your child won’t need to stop what they’re doing to check how much time is left.

Timers are great to use everywhere and you can use them for anything and everything. We set timers for screen time, counting down to bedtime, daily quiet time, getting ready for school, and more.

4. Make Transitions Easier By Bringing Along An Object

Familiarity is comforting to children with autism. A favorite toy or object can help your child stay calm and encourage self-regulation.  A special object that can provide sameness to your child in a constantly changing world.

A comfort object can also help through bigger transitions. For example, bringing a favorite stuffie and blanket on a trip can help your child feel better about being away from home. Or setting their bedroom up the same after moving.

For some children, you can make transitions easier by letting them take an object from the current activity with them to the next task. For example, if your child was coloring but it’s time to leave for an appointment, it may help to allow them to bring one of the crayons along.

5. Use a Daily Visual Schedule

Every child can have an easier time with transitions when using a visual schedule. A lot of children feel anxious about what will be happening during the day, even if it’s always the same routine. The smallest unexpected event can make an anxious child question what else could happen.

It may seem trivial to adults, but something as small as giving your child a blue cup, instead of the red one they use every day can lead to them questioning everything. They may think “If someone can give me a different cup, what else can change? Will mommy still pick me up from daycare?” It can be terrifying.

Having a visual schedule to refer to reminds children what’s going to happen, without them needing to look for constant reassurance. They can see it whenever they want – which lets kids know that nothing has changed.

Visual schedules are common in classrooms but they are great to use at home, too.  You can hang it up in a common area where everyone can see it, such as the refrigerator. Or, you can keep a portable schedule wherever you go.

I use the SchKIDules home bundle for my kids. It is also a great way of encouraging your child to participate in chores around the house. They can see chore on the schedule, which will remind them of the chore without prompting.

6. Talk About Upcoming Big Changes To Make Transitions Easier

When something big is coming – even something exciting like a vacation, the impending change can still cause anxiety and greatly affect a child’s ability to self-regulate leading up to, and during the event.

Talk about upcoming changes as early as possible. Tell your child everything you can about what to expect. If he will be going to a new place – such as school, or daycare – take some pictures or a video of the location and look at it together. Let your child know everything they will be doing there. Explain what will be the same and what will be different.

If your child is going to an appointment at the doctor or dentist, explain what the doctor will do when you arrive.

Social stories are a great tool to use when you’re talking about changes with your child. You can make your own social stories in PowerPoint. Keep sentences short and simple, take a few pictures of your own for each page. Write the story from your child’s point of view.

Children’s books are a useful tool as well for familiarizing your child with what to expect during big changes. I particularly love the Little Critter collections because they have books for all sorts of events that can make children anxious.

7. Practice Makes Perfect

Practice transitions with your son or daughter at home. The more often you practice, the more comfortable your kiddo will feel.

You can even set up a few different play stations in your house to mimic centers at school. Make each station in a different room, and involve a different activity. For example, you could set up craft supplies at the kitchen table, lego in her bedroom, and play-doh in the Rec room. Use the timer and set it for 10 minutes and rotate through each activity together.

Don’t force your child to do anything they don’t want to do. This is about practicing moving from one activity to the next. Be there to make her feel comfortable and the practice will make transitions easier over time. You can try out the different strategies from this post while you’re practicing to help plan what works best.

8. Have A Plan For The Unexpected

A set plan for when something unexpected happens can help your child know what to expect even during the unexpected. Having a plan for what to do when there’s an unexpected change will help make the situation less stressful. This is something you may also want to discuss doing with your child’s school.

There are times when the school day won’t go as planned. Situations like substitute teachers, fire drills, assemblies, field days, watching movies in class, etc. can all cause anxiety because it deviates from your kiddos regular routine. You can set up a plan for when anything like this pops up.

When something is up at my son’s school he goes into the Learning Center in the morning where he can be prepped for what to expect. This can include just talking about the change, or reading a social story, or even making modifications to the school day. When there is an assembly, the school uses a timer and my son attends for 5 minutes. When the time is up, he can choose to stay or go into the Learning Center until the assembly is over.


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